“Balance, my darling, is not letting anybody love you less than you love yourself.”
This is the time of year where we find ourselves believing we are “supposed to do” for our family, for our friends, for our kids, for our tradition.
What happens when you burn out? Then what? Are you overeating sugar? Are you numbing out on the computer or TV? Or are you just craving something that you can’t put your finger on.
Balance is so important, but for some it becomes another “To Do” on your list of plenty.
So how do you fight the overdoing? How do you stop and think? How do you say, “My needs matter? And actually follow through with self-care?”
5 Simple things to knock the cravings down and find joy in your holiday tote.
1) Listen to music that relaxes you. Subconsciously your body slows down and takes its cues from the environment.
2) Get enough sleep. Easier said than done. I am notorious for NOT following this rule. I am trying though.
3) Avoid eating unnecessary sugar. It will bring mood swings, keep you up at night, make you feel good only temporarily, put on the holiday pounds. Instead, ask yourself “what am I craving?” Listen to what your intuition tells you. It might surprise you. It may have nothing to do with food. It may be craving self-care like a nap or drinking more water. It may be saying to slow down and breathe. You won’t know unless you ask.
4) Say no more often. Avoid the obligations. Ask yourself if it brings you joy. If it doesn’t, then saying no is ok. Keep your life more simple at this time of the year. Speeding things up and taking on more only makes you feel less joy. Look to see what the essence of the holidays brings for you and then declare it. Is it peace? Is it joy? Is it warmth and coziness? Whatever you’re craving, it will come to you easier when you declare it.
5) Remember to eat. Skipping meals because you have so much on your plate starts the train wreck and ends with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s. Or worse, knocking your immune system down and you get run down and begin to feel a cold coming on. Keep your water intake up, keep your food intake going and you may notice you are looking less for the afternoon pickup and smiling more.
Whatever you find that you are craving, be willing to ask yourself questions. Blindly running on empty is setting you up for a fall. This is a special time of year. Give yourself a hug, drink some tea and simplify your day.