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Cultivating Love – 8 steps for creating Magic


This is exactly what humanity needs right now. We need lots of people inspiring others. We share our stories to help others lift up. This is good, but sometimes the people falling, or those that are stuck need more than a lift. They need more than a story. They need a rope. Sometimes a really long rope. They feel helpless, hopeless, lost or really stuck. Telling someone “to practice gratitude will change your life” isn’t everyones fix. Sometimes those that are stuck need help getting to a place just to allow gratitude before they can experience it.

I was one of those people. Suffering feels so isolating at times that seeing the forest through the trees doesn’t happen. Being stuck sucks. I read that today on someones blog title and said, “Yup, I’ve been there.” Being stuck does suck because it isn’t clear how to get unstuck. There were years where I would say “Why do these things just keep happening to me.” “Why can’t I find a job?, Why can’t I have a healthy relationship? Why don’t I have any money? Why do people treat me so poorly? Why am I a people pleaser? Why don’t people listen to me? Why am I misunderstood all the time?” There are many factors that create stuckness. There are so many interdependency factors involved, but to keep things simple, let’s see one at a time. You might feel stuck in a job you hate, stuck in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere, stuck in a family that doesn’t nurture you, stuck in a life that feels like a prison, stuck in a city that doesn’t support you or maybe you are stuck with no money and can’t find work.

It may feel like quicksand consuming you. It can feel paralyzing, or it can feel debilitating. Whatever has made you so stuck, it’s time to free yourself. You get to be the master in your life now and choose to look for a new way of doing something. You get to be the conductor. It’s time to create movement from inertia keeping you bound and tied down. Remaining stuck “IS NO LONGER AN OPTION!” What would someone who loves themselves do? They would care. They would take action. They embrace themselves.  They are willing to risk being vulnerable.

Here are 8 steps to create magic and to get unstuck.

1)  Acknowledge you are stuck.   It IS the key to getting unstuck.  Seriously, say outloud “I am stuck”  OWN your stuckness.  Do it with style.  Do it with laughter.  Do it with pizzazz.  I don’t care how you do it….but do it!

2) Write an allowing journal. Allow yourself to get unstuck. Allow yourself movement. Allow the feelings to be ok. Allow yourself to fee what you are avoiding. Allow good in your life. Allow freedom in your life. Allow joy and happiness. Allow a life worth living. Allow forgiveness. Allow inner peace. Allow yourself to make changes and most importantly allow yourself love.

3) See yourself as a big person, not a victim. Empower yourself. You are conducting your life now. You are only here because of a thought you believed about yourself. You are now allowing yourself to have new thoughts. You are now making new choices. Do NOT believe everything you think. This becomes a trap. You are here with millions of people that have been in your shoes or similar shoes. There is room for everyone to make new and different choices to become unstuck. This is another important step. Ask your adult self for help. Ask your higher self for help. Ask the universe for help. Ask God for help. Ask spirit for help. Say I am ready for change.

4) Cultivate Love. You are creating a garden (your garden). You need seeds. What seeds do you want to plant? Seeds of love, joy, happiness, generosity, patience, etc… You need space to grow it. You need water, fertilizer, sunshine, patience, etc… Now one of the most important thing all gardens need is to pull the weeds that grow. It is essential for the healthy plants to not be suffocated by weeds. Our thoughts are no different. Pulling the weeds of self doubt, not being good enough, not deserving, all the negative self talk will smother any healthy growth and we will be unable to see progress. We want the seeds of possibilities to flourish and grow. I want you to be your own witness to this miracle. It will happen. It is the joy of gardening. To harvest our food we grow. To enjoy the beauty of the flowers we grow. Love is the same. We want to cultivate it (hold it precious to ourselves) so we can allow it to rise up within and touch the lives of those around us…including ourselves.

5) Make a vision board and set an intention. Another KEY piece here. Your intention is your seed. Your intention creates your new changes to come. Making a vision board helps visually see it so you can “feel how good it will feel” when it comes. Feeling is half the equation here. Have a stack of magazines. Think of an intention, and then cut away. Don’t think about what you are cutting, just cut words, pictures, photos and set them aside. Then on a big piece of paper glue them together in a way that your intuition guides you. You can even put a date on it. Sign it with your signature. The universe wants to know it’s yours. Put a dab of saliva on it….this is your DNA signature.

6) Believe in yourself. What positive things can your write down about yourself? Write down 10 things that are positive. Do it! (I can see you coming up with excuses already).

7) Make a list of 100 things you want. (Is it a job, a career, a home, a lover, a friend, a car, a horse, a dog…) Whatever it is you need/want make this list. Don’t skimp on details. The universe does fabulous with details. The more the better and the clearer you get. If you are doing this with a husband, a partner, etc…it brings clarity for both of you to get on the same page and understand each other. Now, make a list of 50 things you have to offer. This is an incredible exercise to do.

8) Sit back and watch the miracle happen in your life. Watch the magic. You just created the remedy to get unstuck. I dare you to try it. It is impossible to fail. It is a very powerful method. DO NOT SKIP ANY STEPS….(If you do, I will know….hee hee)

Your life matters. Go give it meaning and purpose, so others will recieve your gifts you have to offer. You have everything for humanity to thrive. It’s all inside you when you cultivate love. You never know who’s life will be touched by your story. It may just be the rope to help pull someone out of their suffering. Humanity needs all of us to show up. Hands held out across the world.

With deepest gratitude, I wish you everything you desire to get unstuck. I believe in you. You have everything you need to create your own magic.

Please help others.  Share this link on Facebook, twitter, email it to friends.  I know what it’s like to be really stuck.  I have found a formula to get unstuck.  If you really want to help someone who’s ready to make changes, share this link.  Thank you.  I have nothing to gain here, it’s just my aspiration to help people.



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Change is in the Air


“When we train our mind in how to die,

we directly influence ourselves on how to live.”

~ Shakti Chionis

What does impermanence mean?

We all live in a world of movement.  The seasons cycle, there is birth and death moment to moment.  We witness it within ourselves as simple as our breath cycling in and out and as profound as how much we change from birth, through adolescent all the way through old age and finally we come to death…if we live a long life.  For others their path may be shorter.  Regardless of length, there is a cycle of birth and death.

Nature carries the same cycles within  the seasons: spring, summer, fall, winter.  In the growing of a plant and flowering and dying.  Everywhere we go we see change.  And yet, being open to change is one of humans biggest resistance.  Why?

With so much information going around with Robin William’s recent death, people are talking.  People are looking.  Looking for answers, looking for understanding and looking for meaning and comfort in what seems to some a selfish act on his part.  Everyone seems to have an opinion.  And ultimately who is the opinion benefiting?

 Is it kind?  Is it true?  Is it necessary?

Where does one turn to when everyone is looking for the same answers and comfort?

The same grasping.

Some turn to religion, some turn to addiction and some turn to friends, family, social media while others go and search within.  What are the answers?   Answers to depression.  Answers about mental illness.  Answers about how someone so funny and so obviously committed to others well-being care so little for themselves or family?  Who’s opinions are these?  How does it relate to you?

What  is it that we are really afraid of?  Why are people so rattled?  There is death around us all the time.  Do you not see it?  Our mortality is real and how one dies apparently is becoming the universal point of expansion in our lives.

Change brings both fear of death and fear of the unknown to a pinhead.  

I want to share a story here.  At least 10 years ago (maybe more), I once went on a retreat on Salt Spring Island (in British Columbia)  and the Buddhist nun there was incredible. I told her that I have been to many teachings and read several dharma books and they all say to reflect on death. Some say even 10 x a day. Not to dwell on it but to understand the nature of impermanence. I asked her does this make it happen?  As in would we manifest dying  because we would be thinking about it so much.  She said no. Then she explained that death is a law like gravity. It’s going to happen no matter what.  So being afraid of something that happens no matter what isn’t worthy of running from.  Rather facing it and understanding it so when the time comes you are at ease with it.

I have learned by reflecting on death it allows us to grasp the quality of its reality. That all things are impermanent. When we train our mind in how to die, we directly influence ourselves on how to live. It brings a profound view of how precious everything is. It brings a deeper gratitude into our beings. It brings joy and love and other precious gifts fuller and deeper into our being.  The quality of life expands and opens us up to being more available to what possibilities exist instead of resisting things out of fear. I have found many religions bring so much fear to people. Unless your faith about death is unwavering from a near death experience, most people fear the unknown. I believe this unknown is more of the issue then death itself.

The Buddha says, “Everything is like a bubble.  You never know which comes first, tomorrow or the next world.”.

These words are engrained deep inside of me.  For I continue to train my mind to know what’s most important.  In doing so, when life events happen, I have developed resilience to what I see and fear. My faith in the unseen is protecting me.  My faith in myself is stronger and I will be a person others can lean into for support during tough times.  Without this foundation, my mind will blow like the wind and have nothing to cling on to.  It will pass through all the stories not knowing which one to grasp and cling to for dear life.

Robin Williams really has given us many many gifts if you want to know.  The most important one I believe is the gift of just how precious human life is.  What more do you want?  What more can you say?  Ultimately it is our own path to walk alone on and it is our passion for living that will touch others.  It is with this hope that we may reach out to one another in humanity and lean on each other and bless each other with the grace of love.

Peace be with you.


Miracles and More

Let go of who you think you are and fly with your wings of who you really are. 

What a gift! True generosity.


The Greatest Man on Earth



“One simple act of kindness sheds a million blessings to all.”


The interdependent nature of all phenomena is a mystery.  Especially when you see how one man spreads his gifts of giving to the simplest part of humanity, feeding not only physical nutrition, but mental nutrition as well.  Humanity would grow leaps and bounds if we could all reach out this way.  I am honored to know that this man is diligently working towards creating no separation here.  So profound.


Only when it’s dark, can we see the light.

cave ocean view

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.



How true is that?  When we are around our light, we are living in it.  We vibrate it.  We don’t know about anything else.  It’s only when we are in darkness do we seek the light.  How many of you have found the confusion, the tears and the sadness so full of darkness only to have opened up to a whole new view of clarity after the storm passes.  

I once was told that when a fire burns through the woods, when it has passed, you are left with a huge clearing.  Somehow that resonated with me and whenever I find myself crying a lot, I tell myself that the fire that burns through will bring me incredible clarity.  Brighter eyes.  

For some of us, we are heading into the darkest days of the year.    The light we aim to see is our own.   We are seeking the warmth, the nature of our best selves to illuminate those around us.  The holiday seasons can be some of our favorite holidays and for others it can be our loneliest time of year.  Watching others have what we don’t have or what we desperately seek.  

We are surrounded by warmth and lights though.  We are all reaching out to one another in ways with bringing our illuminated self to our community.  Think about how much we are offering to those around us.  Generosity with spirit, generosity with warmth (home or food), generosity of helping others (any altruistic effort) and generosity with love.  We are filled with more gratitude, more joy and more love.  Share it and open your hearts to those that you may not reach out too much.  Whether it is family or friends.  

Bless everyone around you.  When we do this, we in turn get the blessings as well.  

There are  many turning points right now for me.  As I walk into my 7 months tomorrow, I am in awe of just how much effort has gone into this journey.  My update will be rich and full of story.  Stay tuned…. 🙂

I am very grateful to all those that are following my blog and have found some kind of inspiring words. Share the love and inspiration with your friends on Facebook, Pinterest and Twitter.  Thank you.  


Gratitude….Part 2

“There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle, or you can live as if everything is a miracle.”

Albert Einstein

It’s such a good day when we can know that the blessings already exists and we don’t need them to come to us.  When we wake up and love what we have, we are home.  Enjoy this reading.  It’s from the Circle of Fire by Don Miguel Ruiz.  I just love his book.  I wanted to offer his prayer to you all.  🙂


Gratitude…Part 2





Oh so pleasant or Oh so smart?


Remember in the movie Harvey?  This is such a great line.  When Elwood P. Dow ( Jimmy Stuart) says do you want to be “Oh so smart?”  or “Oh so pleasant?”  Which matters to you more.

Being kind to someone or being right?

There was a time in my life where it matter to be “oh so smart”.  I think we can all identify with this.  A need to be right.  A need to be better or bigger than someone.  Did it make a difference in someones day though, probably not.  But when you make an effort to be kind, pleasant or loving, just think about the ripple effect it makes for everyone you meet.  That is a true gift you can give someone.

Opportunities are everywhere to be kind.  Give it a go.  That’s making magic in your life today.



Bring Back Peace

Video- Bring Back Peace, Watch Here

This is an amazing video.  You will be filled up….I believe.  

SMD- Shree Mangal Dvip School in Nepal.   It is a very special school.  Thrangu Rinpoche (Himalayn Children’s Fund) had a vision and this is just one of his many compassionate activities.

We happen to have 3 children that we sponsor there, so this is near and dear to me.  We have Palden Tsering who is in preschool, Sweta Ale who is in 5th grade (she was in kindergarten when we first sponsored her) and Norbu Samdup who is in 6th grade (2nd when we started).  We are watching these amazing children grow up and get an incredible education in one of the most poverty stricken areas of the world.  They send us drawings, letters and photos throughout the year.  I am so grateful to be part of their lives and be a blessing for them.  Sweta has drawn a picture of our family with her in it saying she is my “daughter”.  I just cried.  Once a year many of these children see there parents.  They live too far away to see them more.  It is hard to believe at such a young age the parents must make decisions like this.  BUT if they are lucky, they get an education which is wealth for them.

Palden Tsering B11.9_2



Here is another video of the school and just how happy these children are!

If you feel moved by this, they are always looking for people to sponsor the children.  Here is a page of some children waiting for sponsorship.  We have so much and all they ask for is an education.  If you find it in your heart to help, please take inspired action.  Thank you.

Children who need sponsorships now

Thank you for taking the time to watch these videos.  Thank you for sharing this with others you may know that would have an interest in helping.  I am eternally grateful.