“Success doesn’t tell us how rich we are, it only tells us how willing we are to show up.”
Last week I had a dream that revealed to me some hidden secrets of taking risks. What really surprised me was how quickly I was able to process the dream and work it out, and then watch how the Universe delivered an opportunity for me to really look at what risk taking is all about for me.
In my dream, there was a large investment that someone was selling in order to buy another business. A friend of mine had a million dollar business and she was selling hers to buy a different one. In the dream (after much story), I actually heard the question, Do you consider yourself to be a risk taker?
Before you jump to your answer I want to shed light on what isn’t so obvious for my answer. My original answer was no.
Here’s why. First define what level of a risk taker you are? If you think you aren’t, look in your life where you are successful at taking risks, even if they are small because you can build on them (taking trips, driving, saying yes when you are uncomfortable with the unknown). All these reflect many levels of being a risk taker. If your definition of “highly successful” and risk taker are about investments in money only, then here’s a window to open and see just how much money has nothing to do with success.
For me, success is another delusion of risk taking. It is a trap we fall into. What is it that you are trying to succeed at? All important questions. In my article I wrote called, The Power of Failure: We get to decide what it means, I share many different perspectives of success and failure.
Success doesn’t tell us how rich we are, it only tells us how willing we are to show up.
So do you consider yourself to be confident with your decisions? Or do you get caught in the trap “What if I’m wrong?”. This “what if I’m wrong” has been a major obstacle for me to over come when it comes from “small risks” to “big risks”. Because for me I could see that small risks are fine, but when it came to bigger ones I finally got to understand what “being wrong” really meant. It was not as painful as a tooth extraction, but it was close enough. When faced with my honesty of why I am so triggered with “What if I’m wrong?”, I was able to decode it and bring the charge out in the open. For me, the trigger was “Being wrong is dangerous”. My family (particularly my dad) did a number in my head about what happened when I was caught in a situation of one kind or another. After really seeing that I could find areas in my life where “Being wrong wasn’t dangerous” I was able to see that it is just a belief I have been carrying. Freeing myself of this belief is how transformation takes place. It is literally what changes our external world inviting more and more mini miracles into your life.
My hopes is that if you don’t consider yourself to be a risk taker, that you look at the reasons why. The hidden obstacles are a possible trap keeping you from living the life you want or you don’t realize that you are a risk taker because you might be basing it on monetary success. Either way, I hope you find value in this.
Please leave a comment about how taking risks in your life have been successful or how they have hindered you from doing what you love.
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“The only thing that never changes is change itself. All things are impermanent.” ~ Buddha
Peter Coyote, a Zen Buddhist Priest, wrote a lovely letter to help others find peace in how Robin Williams chose to end his life. I found it on Facebook and feel it’s important to share, so I am posting it on my blog (see below). I hope it helps you shift any perceptions on such a heavy topic. I have mixed feelings on what is going on and part of me feels Robin’s calling for leaving is as big as his life was. He battled with what so many of us have battled with. Our mind, our thoughts of suffering and how helpless we fall victim to them. When we are isolated in our suffering, or have some kind of mental illness, our minds strength to just “reach out” for help is often not a realistic possibility for some. Is it possible to change it? I believe it is, with the right mix of helpers, prayers, and outreach. Will everyone have success?, possibility not, but without starting or trying, how would we know. And how does one start? How does one bypass the shame or the fears in reaching out? Or even know they have something “wrong that needs fixing”. As long as society thinks that those who have some kind of “mental illness” is different from them, there will always be this “hands off or hands out of reach” approach.
I do not have a labeled “mental illness” and yet, for me, my thoughts of depression or suffering of my mind have been probably as debilitating as some. My fears to reach out and stay isolated are real and are my choices are based out of fear at times. However, I know to ask if what I’m thinking is the “collective energy” around me. Are they really “my thoughts”? Or because I am so empathic, are they the collective? There is a movie called “Wings of Desire”, a German film where these 2 angels can hear everyone’s thoughts. It’s a buzz of energy that has to be drowned out or one would go crazy. Learning to discern what’s ours and others is a valuable lesson to learn. Separating out what’s “my business” or “someone else’s business” is also necessary for an empath.
I have had suicidal thoughts in my past and I have also had profound Buddhist teachings about the mind and what happens to the mind when we die. I reflect on these because it’s important to me to know how to face my fears. If looking at my mind causes so much fear, pain and suffering, then there is more work to be done. No judgment, no finger-pointing, just awareness that there are layers wanting to be peeled away. I have also experienced profound inner peace. It’s the same mind that experiences the same kind of suffering. This brings freedom of choices. The choices of how I want to live in my mind. And if I choose inner peace, then I can declare peace and find ways to start seeing it around me and bringing it in and toward me as opposed to living in my suffering. However, that does require effort on my end. Effort to make daily choices of how I want to think and live. Effort to be present. Effort to know what choices I want. It may not seem like a big deal, but it is.
When awareness begins to take charge of our thoughts, new perceptions begin to take place. AND they are instantaneous, not “let’s wait and see” but immediate. This is valuable information to the suffering mind. Looking for ways to get out of our suffering is as old as man itself. That’s why people overeat, drink, smoke, gamble, watch tv, do video games, etc…. Everything that can distract the mind, and numb us out of our feelings are many ways to not deal with our suffering. Unfortunately disconnecting is also not an answer, it creates many more problems. How is it that we can live in our bodies, our minds and find inner and outer peace without looking for outside fixes? It all starts with our thoughts, our intentions and our desires for how we want to live. Let’s learn from Robin Williams last gift as to how we choose to live. May you rest in Peace Robin. You have been loved by millions. I honor you and your path and your choices.
Robin William’s Last Gift- Peter Coyote
Robin and I were friends. Not intimate, because he was very shy when he was not performing. Still, I spent many birthdays and holidays at his home with Marsha and the children, and he showed up at my 70th birthday to say “Hello” and wound up mesmerizing my relatives with a fifteen minute set that pulverized the audience.
When I heard that he had died, I put my own sorrow aside for a later time. I’m a Zen Buddhist priest and my vows instruct me to try to help others. So this little letter is meant in that spirit.
Normally when you are gifted with a huge talent of some kind, it’s like having a magnificent bicep. People will say, “Wow, that’s fantastic” and they tell you, truthfully, that it can change your life, take you to unimaginable realms. It can and often does. The Zen perspective is a little different. We might say, “Well, that’s a great bicep, you don’t have to do anything to it. Let’s work at bringing the rest of your body up to that level.”
Robin’s gift could be likened to fastest thoroughbred race-horse on earth. It had unbeatable endurance, nimbleness, and a huge heart. However, it had never been fully trained. Sometimes Robin would ride it like a kayaker tearing down white-water, skimming on the edge of control. We would marvel at his courage, his daring, and his brilliance. But at other times, the horse went where he wanted, and Robin could only hang on for dear life.
In the final analysis, what failed Robin was his greatest gift—his imagination. Clutching the horse he could no longer think of a single thing to do to change his life or make himself feel better, and he stepped off the edge of the saddle. Had the horse been trained, it might have reminded him that there is always something we can do. We can take a walk until the feeling passes. We can find someone else suffering and help them, taking the attention off our own. Or, finally, we can learn to muster our courage and simply sit still with what we are thinking are insoluble problems, becoming as intimate with them as we can, facing them until we get over our fear. They may even be insoluble, but that does not mean that there is nothing we can do.
Our great-hearted friend will be back as the rain, as the cry of a Raven as the wind. He, you and I have never for one moment not been a part of all it. But we would be doing his life and memory a dis-service if we did not extract some wisdom from his choice, which, if we ponder deeply enough, will turn out to be his last gift. He would beg us to pay attention if he could.
“And the Day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
~ Anais Nin
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The Dance of Eternity
Look through the ache
People cry hard
Open Your eyes
Shed one last tear
Step into your life and live till you die.
Paving the way for those arriving another day.
Their joy is your joy.
Their love is your love.
They live together, they exist together
In the dance of eternity
An endless loop of time.
Breathing, pulsing, living, moving one step,
one generation, one era at a time.
Breathe, dance, listen, decide how you choose to live
And pave the way for another.
The dance of eternity lives and breathes in the “ALL”.
We come from “ALL” and we go back to “ALL”.
Paving the way for another.
This is the dance of eternity.
Breathing, Pulsing, Joining, Becoming
The way for all.
Thank you Maya for teaching us, showing us just how to live. Thank you for your strength, your courage and your inner beauty. I am moved deeply with your life. May I walk as you’ve walked in your lifetime. May we all find our courage as you showed us so elegantly. Peace be with you.
In Deep Gratitude,
I want to reblog this incredible story. This woman has a remarkable way of being honest and real with her life that helps to reach out to so many of us.
Her name is Rachel Strafford with Hands Free Mama. She has also recently written a book (her story) that can be pre-ordered and delivered I believe by Jan 7.
“Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”
Since she has written this a couple of weeks ago, she has had over 4,000,000 views and hundreds of thousands of stories from people sharing their story. Take a moment and read this. Many of us are carrying some aspect of perfectionism and how it spills into our daily lives. Especially how it affects our children. I am very grateful for Rachel’s gifts. Both as a writer and as a mom that can openly share what we are all embarrassed or ashamed of. Brene Brown has been helping me so much with shame. I feel the steps are being made for the change I must make to live a wholehearted life.
If this story impacts you as it has for so many, Brene Brown is teaching her on line course again starting Jan. 12 with Oprah. There was such a demand for it, that she is repeating it and then continuing on with Part 2 in March.
Thank you for taking time out to read this story. I would copy and paste it here, but I don’t think that is politically correct. So all I can do is post the link.
- Audible Daily Deal – The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown @BreneBrown (Narrated by Lauren Fortgang) for $1.95! (randomizeme.net)
- The Bully Too Close To Home…. (inthelifeofrobin.wordpress.com)
- Brene Brown’s e-course “The Gifts of Imperfection” (This starts Jan. 12, 2014)
My light within,
Seeking to be seen.
Sparks create a fire.
Have a happy solstice. PS…there’s an update on my last blog post for those that haven’t seen it.
PPS- This is a painting I did this week. I’ve been painting almost everyday. It’s almost always these colors in some form. My light is burning bright and I love seeing it come out on paper. It brings me much joy.
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